Brothers

You'd think that word would spark togetherness and comradary....right! Jay and I are at the end of our ropes with Timmy and Trae and their fighting. We have dealt with this for a few years now thinking it would get better and go away, but that's not happened. It's gotten worse. They aren't happy unless they're bugging eachother, telling on one another, pushing, shoving, hitting, teasing.....you name it. Timmy has this attitude that since he and Trae are practically the same size, he has to constantly remind him he's older, stronger, tougher. Soooo....on the event this weekend that broke the camel's back....Jay and I decided that the best way to get them to find a way to co-exist is to do just that....make them co-exist....in the same bedroom. The plan has always been that Tyler would get the second room downstairs once I was done with daycare and then Trae would take his place in the room with Timmy. Well, we moved that plan up a year. Tyler is now going to take the upstairs spare room and Trae will be moving in with his loving brother. Maybe if we do the opposite of what makes sense....something will change. Jay kept them up last night until I got home from work so we could have a talk and let them know the plan. We had already talked to Tyler about it the night before. We laid it all out there and told them that this stops NOW. That's it. It stops. I told them that from now on when they fight or are mean to one another there will be swift and serious consequences. They weren't allowed to talk...only listen. And they did, but we'll see how much good it did. All we can do is hope and pray.
They sure LOOK innocent enough.....

Kids in every corner

7:30am - There are kids everywhere! I have 10 kids today and Tony is the oldest at age 5. Holy cow! This should be interesting. I have 2 extra girls this week, but this is good in a way cuz it will help me see what it would be like if I up my license to allow for 2 more. They would be the two I'm hoping to get. It would be crazy, but it would be $1000 more a month and that sure would be nice.
Well, I am off to fix breakfast for all these ying-yangs. Lord, help me.
11:30am - I can hardly stand this. It's all I can do to not just call parents and give notice TOMORROW. I seriously do not know how I'm going to do this all summer. I was always an 'on the go' mom....we never stayed home during the summer. Between the wading pool, and softball, and parks, and the zoo....I was always doing something with the boys. I am NOT doing this next summer, I don't care where we're at. THere's just no way.
1:30pm - I canNOT keep my eyes open. If I stop and sit for one minute, I"m going to doze off and not wake up until tomorrow. Oh my gosh, I have 8 hours of working left. UGH!

Done!

I'm sooo happy to have this weekend over. All month I've been dreading it. Not because I didn't want to help out with the Springfest, but because the combination of that, the garage sale, my 2 jobs, and 5 kids just seemed a bit overwhelming.

The garage sale was a huge success! We made more than I even hoped for which will be great to add to our savings for the adoption. We have only a few larger items left, but for the most part sold it all. That is unbelieveable to me considering how much stuff we had. I am so grateful to all our friends and family for the things they gave us. What a blessing they all are to just give like that. It makes them all a part of this whole adoption process.
This is how it looked on Thur. morning....



I wish I would have taken a picture of it by Sat. afternoon....it was just a skeleton of this.
On Friday, I was a bit nervous as to how I was going to do daycare and a garage sale at the same time. Jay had taken Thurs. off to help, but when his mom got sick and couldn't come on Friday....I knew it would be interesting. Annie came over by 11am and stayed for til about 3pm so that helped a ton. The boys were all off of school because of the Springfest, and that ended up working out to my advantage. Just as I was heading into the house to get lunch ready for the kids.....Tyler, Timmy, and Trae had it already made and set. Awwww....that was the sweetest thing ever!

They made a very healthy lunch of ravioli, tortilla chips, applesauce, and fruit snacks. HA! It was so sweet.....although I'm not sure I can claim it on my food program. :)
There is one downside to having 3 boys fix lunch for you.....

It's all good though...cuz they cleaned it all up.

For Epiphany's Springfest this year, we were asked to co-chair the volunteer effort. This is a huge undertaking as the entire thing (except the carnival rides) is run by hundreds of volunteers. We spent the 3 weekends prior to this one setting up for and getting ppl to sign up after all the masses. Then this weekend we spent every waking moment there at the volunteer tent checking people in and out...getting their name tags, directing people that showed up to help but hadn't signed up for anything. We actually found out something interesting this weekend. Turns out that once you volunteer for a co-chair position....you commit to 2 more years as the CHAIR of that division. Sooooo.....the 2 women who chaired this year are hanging it up and handing it over to us. They even gave us the boxes of stuff for next year when we left yesterday. Um...okay? I don't mind....I really don't. But for us to commit to ANYTHING that is a year away, right now, is not realistic. We just don't know where we'll be this time next year....China, maybe? I guess we'll cross that bridge when we get to it.

I'm going to breathe a bit today and go to mom's and to the park with the kids. I should be here getting the house ready for this weekend when Leroy and Lil are coming, but I can do that tonight.

Garage sale day!

Well, it arrived. We finally called it quit at 1am last night in the garage preparing for the sale today. By the time we opened the doors at 8am and started to take stuff out into the driveway, about half the stuff wasn't even priced. It was crazy and hectic for a while and very busy too...but it all worked itself out and turned out to be a huge success. We sold AT LEAST half the stuff so far. There are a few big items we really hope to get rid of, but all in all...I'm very happy with today's result. I am beat, so I am not writing much today. These next few days now are just crazy! It's Epiphany's springfest that we are co-chairing the volunteer effort for. This means we will be at the fair Friday evening, Sat. evening and all day Sunday. I can't wait until Sunday night when I can celebrate that it's over.

Lighthearted moment of the day....there are 2. Yesterday was Tony's school track and field day and the parents could come to cheer them on. I was there with Tanner and the daycare kids to watch him. When they were all done with the final event, I gave him a wave and said I was going to go now. He said, we're not done...we didn't jump over the turtles yet.. I asked him what he meant. He said " they said we were going to jump over turtles." Then it occurred to me....."Tony, they're called HURDLES and you already did that" HAHA!!! Too funny.




Then just tonight, we were watching a TV show and he looks up at me and says "Mom, do you have any hiccup medicine?" HA! I love the things kids say.

Emailing Tyler's teachers...

This is the letter I just sent the three 6th grade teachers this morning. I'm not one to get involved too much with school incidents, but when it goes on like it has...it's time to get other adults involved.
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Hello,

I wanted to tell you all what has been going on with Tyler at school. Throughout most of the year, he has been teased and made fun of...everything from being called fat to stupid to gay. As the year has gone on, it's gotten worse. He tells us often about the kids saying he is stupid and dumb and how much this bothers him, esp. since he's a good student. Recently we learned just how often the gay term is used on him. This is obviously a hard thing for a young boy to have to hear from his peers. Yesterday when he said it happened a couple times.....once with one of the girls saying he was gay and once with a boy asking him how it felt to be gay.....I decided that I had to contact you and see if you can help us. This has to stop. We try and talk to him about not listening to it and trying to not let it bother him. I've talked to him about approaching the kids and asking them to please stop. Maybe some of you have heard in the last few weeks about the 2 boys (in totally different states), both in 6th grade, both called gay at school, who committed suicide. I'm not saying Tyler is at a point like that....but it did raise a real red flag with my husband and me about just how much effect these sort of comments can have on a child. My husband has been talking about him switching schools....but I don't think that's the answer.

Tyler is real concerned that if I tell you that somehow then the kids will know he 'told' on them. I assured him that this could be handled in a way that keeps his name out of it. Maybe some talking to the class from you or Ms. McCorkle about those other boys' stories that I just mentioned....let them know just how harmful those sort of words can be. I know you will think of something that can help us and help Tyler have a good last month of school. He's a sweet boy and this just breaks our hearts to see him hurt like this. I look forward to hearing any ideas you have.

Feel free to contact me via email or phone.
Thank you,
Jenny Janisch
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I recieved a message back almost immediately from one asking when this is happening at school, that that would help them.
Then his main homeroom teacher just replied saying how sad she was to hear this is still going on (I had talked to her briefly this winter) and that she thought things were going better for him. She also wanted to know when during school this was happening.
I'm glad they are taking it seriously, I'm tired of him being hurt. Kids can be so mean.

Flowers...for me?

I forgot to mention what Jay did for me on Saturday. He had gone and gotten a really nice boquet of flowers and a balloon to bring to me at work. He pulled up with his gift and went inside my work to find me....only one problem...I'd already left. I had gotten off a little early and left by 1:30. He got there at 1:40...just missing me. Everyone kept telling him how sweet he was and they felt so bad that he missed me. He brought them home for me instead...they are so nice.

busy, busy

It's been a few days. We've been so busy around here....more than usual.
First of all, Timmy's party on Friday night was a big hit. He was very surprised. We had some pizza and headed to Vertical Endeavors for 2 hours of rock climbing. The boys absolutey loved it! We got home by 10:30 and made sundaes and opened presents. Timmy and his friends camped out in the toy room and didn't quiet down until 2am. That didn't stop them from waking by 7:30 though. Geez..
Timmy came up to me at the rock climbing place and said this was the best birthday ever. A far cry from the tears just a few days earlier. :)
Yesterday, after working and then getting garage sale things done, we went to mom's for a Mother's Day dinner....no kids. Somehow it still managed to be loud in the house though. HA! We aren't a quiet family, that's for sure. It was fun to be able to enjoy the conversation and dinner without the interuption of kids there. Is it too early to start crossing off days on the calendar until the cruise?
So, here we are today...Mother's Day. Well, it wasn't exactly how I'd plan it if I had my way...but just because it's a 'holiday' doesn't mean things don't go on as usual. This whole garage sale is stressing me out. I am excited about how much stuff we will have, it's bound to be successful....but the work involved!! Holy cow, I hardly know where to go. I woke up at 7:20am this morning and instead of going back to sleep, I laid there thinking about how I have no idea how I"m going to get this all done and got up. I was out in the garage before 8am and worked until 9:30. It's amazing how much more you can get done on your own sometimes. Tyler did get up and so he was out there helping some too.
I had to get inside to get breakfast started for when Cindy was coming over. We had a nice brunch and then we were going to go to a movie. WE WERE...but that's not exactly what happened.....I made brunch and afterwards, I was so tired I was getting a headache. I literally make myself sick sometimes, it's rediculous. I told Jay that I just didn't think I could sit through a movie. So, instead, he and Cindy went and I went up to bed. I took a nap until 4:30pm. As nice as that was, I woke up all stressed because I had wanted to spend some time with the boys before having to go in the garage again. Plus, we were going to 5:30 mass at Epiphany. All in all, a lot got done for the sale. The whole garage got organized in the 3rd stall which was huge! I've got all the big stuff priced, now I just have to go through all the little things and price those. I'm still wondering how we get it all in the garage once Mindy brings over her stuff and Chuck and Amy. It's been really nice to have everyone help us out by giving us stuff though....can't complain about that. I just hope it's all worth it and we have a good turnout.
This is Tanner's way of helping...he's 'washing' everything in sight.

These are the before pictures....or the during....and there's more to come. Not sure where it's going to go. LOL